An amazing video on love and relationships

As much as we agree or disagree we must love each other.  I saw this video on a former coach’s social networking site and was blown away. This friend helped shape my personality to what it is today, even after, a traumatic brain injury.  This post examines, first, what it may look like from an athlete’s and also a coach’s perspective and then the love component.

 

If we want to dig more deeply we see the importance of athletics in a person’s life.  Sports teaches the athlete how to celebrate success.  Sports teach us to celebrate success whether it is small or large.  We all know celebrating winning the game but sports, also, can help us learn to celebrate the smaller goals we set for ourselves.   Sports also teach us how to let go of mistakes.  The most successful athletes brushoff mistakes. They acknowledge them, they learn from them, and they moved past them. They put them in the past.  Finally, sports teach us the importance of the ability to keep on learning. Youth sports should help kids recognize that even the best players are consistently learning and working to get better. It is an approach to life that will serve us as well.

Thousands of school coaches have the opportunity to make a meaningful and, in many cases, profound impact on the millions of eager student-athletes under her or his watch.  The best of these coaches will incorporate not just their textbook knowledge of the sport but also a component to integrate valuable life lessons.  Just one of the many life lessons that sports teach us is, “if you do not have a goal, you do not have a game.”  Just like a sport, life works best when you have a clear objectives. If you want to create life you truly desire, you must know what it is that you truly desire. In other words, you have to have a clear vision of what life looks like.

Love. It makes the world go ‘round, right? Well, at least that is how the saying goes. But is it true? It should be, but so many people confuse love with things like jealousy or possessiveness. True love is not either of those things.  Here are some great things that love teaches us:

1. Love means letting go of expectations.
   • We all want people to behave the way that we want. For example, we want them to be more affectionate, outgoing, smarter, or more ambitious. All of these are expectations. Expectations are just requirements for “accessibility” of loving someone. True love, however, has no expectations. It is simply “love as is.”
2. Love includes letting go.
   • Love does not equal possession. Just as the saying goes, “if you love something, set it free. If it comes back, stupendous. If it does not that it never was yours to begin with.” There is truth to that because love allows people freedom. It does not hold tightly to crush his or her wings in attempt to keep them. True love does not want to possess.
3. Love has no room for jealousy.
   • Jealousy does not equal love. We think that if were not jealous we do not love our significant other. True love has confidence in the quality of the relationship. It knows that the other person is happy and content coming back to you and only you.
4. Love has empathy.
   • Empathy is the ability to put yourself into another person’s shoes and see the world from his or her point of view. Love has deep empathy. “When you hurt, I hurt.” People who truly love one another do not want to hurt them. They want to make them feel good. They care about their feelings and try everything they can to make them feel valued and worthy.

REMEMBER: love is happiness, appreciating, and feeling good. Anything other than that is not love. If we all love one another as ourselves, the world would be a better place.

 

For all the coaches or athletes do you think you can connect with this post? How so? Do you think I left out any important information?

 

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