Whatever happened to, “I love you?”
This post is about the statement I love you. I have noticed that is rarely or if ever used in today’s culture. Why is that? Is it because I or you are not loved? Maybe, it is because that person thinks that it is implied that he or she loves you. I mean I love a lot of things (e.g., my dogs, my parents, and life, etc…) and I know the I very rarely hear or see expressions of ways that I am loved.
Because I love a lot of things does that mean I am less of a person? In today’s culture I would have to say yes. Why is that? Why do I not hear I behave the way that I do towards you because I love you.
This goes on to all the the authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and unresolved parents. The statement I love you should be used to much. It should be used so much that your child, significant other, or family says underneath his or her breath that I get pretty tired of of hearing, “I love you,” from you. I truly believe that people are afraid of saying I love you to someone because he or she does not know what it feels like to be loved. For example, I wanted to experience life by flying down Gulf Shores, Alabama for a concert at The Hangout. Of course, my parents adamantly said, “NO!”
As you may assume my parents thought of every reason (e.g., travel, lodging, and money) to not go to this concert. After I reflected on my mother’s and father’s decision to not allow me to go to a concert; I thought am I really loved? Why do not my parents think that I was raised good enough by my mother and father to have enough smarts to manage myself in today’s life? Never once did my parents say, “I do not wants you to go to this concert in Alabama because we love you.” In all honesty, that is all that it would have taken for me not to go to this concert is, “we do not want you to go to this concert because we love you.”
If you want to see change start telling people that you love them. Help spread the good news!
Live every day like it was your last,
Chad Francour
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